Deception

An honest enemy is better than a friend who lies.” ~ Unknown

I am almost certain that at some point in our lives, we have all been deceived, fooled for thinking that a situation is one way, when most of the time it is completely the opposite. People have a creative way of thinking when they decide to construct a lie, scenario, or lifestyle that is far from the truth just to get whatever they desire, which can range anywhere from fabricating a story in order to protect someone’s feelings to living a double life. As you can imagine, any form of deception can harm anyone, regardless of where it falls on the spectrum of lies. Although the impact of the lies are painful, I believe it is the act that is far worse.

Naive is something I must admit to being. I always want to give people the benefit of the doubt and I never thought that people would lie, especially in situations they did not have to, however, I have to realize that I am totally wrong. I have witnessed so called friends and sisters talk about one another behind their backs, but be the best of friends when in the same room. Also, there are the situations of that one person in a relationship who lies about any and everything, who has a hidden agenda, or who is out for their personal gain. Whether you are the person who played the villain or the victim, you have to know when enough is enough.

From my personal experience, intuition is real. Nevertheless, you must be conscious when it is actually your gut feeling, or to take it further, your spirit that is trying to communicate with you or if it is just a ball of emotions. At times, it can be confusing, but I believe you have to look for a pattern. I slowly realized that my gut feeling comes in the middle of the night, which causes me to get little rest or in the moment, I feel hot and as if I am being pressured to do or say something and I actually feel obligated! Unfortunately, I did not always know my pattern and I had the role of playing victim in a few situations, but hey…they were all learning experiences and I am learning how to trust my own instinct and know when to leave or avoid those situations altogether.

But let’s face it, we all have dealt with being mislead by others and especially ones that we love and once the truth comes out, because it will, then what next? Do you replay every lie that was said, every story that was told, even those moments you thought you would be able to cherish for a lifetime because after all, they were with people you loved and cared about and you thought they felt the very same way about you? Even if you try to erase those past times, it is quite difficult to continue to move forward because you have to face the next step, which is forgiveness. One word that no one can ever escape. If you are reading this and can think of a time when someone took advantage of you and caused you to believe everything they had to offer, know that regardless of what they did, you have to forgive them. Trust me, I have not mastered putting this in practice in all facets of my life’s trials involving people’s dishonesty, but I can admit I know that is what I need to do. If I remain bitter, evil, or believing that I cannot trust anyone, then how can I accept the person who I can actually trust in my life?

Now I must admit, the ability to forgive and trust is a process that is ongoing, at least for me it is, but that is okay. As long as you are able to learn from those past situations and begin to listen to your intuition, the possibility of being affected by one’s lies is something that you are practicing to avoid all together.

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Who are You Sowing Into

Throughout the time I have been posting on my blog, I have always focused on self-healing, self-motivating, and self-reflecting topics. However, I have started to notice as I continue to work on myself, people not only notice and are attracted to the person I am becoming, but they are interested in who I am and what I have to say. Not only that, but people want to engage in conversations about experiences in life that I never thought I would be sharing advice about!

As I began reflecting about this surprising reality, I suddenly became afraid. I think about the conversations I had with people varying in different ages, even some older, and I think about their responses. At times these conversations seem to be surreal and it is as if I was placed there for a specific reason. Have you ever felt certain situations were destined to occur? Sometimes that can seem out of the ordinary and you may not know how to respond, but somehow, the words seem to flow out naturally and after you are done, all you can say is…wow. Anyway, that is usually my response.

To take this a little further, I came to the conclusion that these are the moments that we are being sown into. Not quite sure of what I mean? Well, it is sometimes in those moments when you cannot explain how or why they happen, but you know they were for a reason and you leave feeling like you gained something or you were the person who sowed or planted something that the other person needed to hear. Whether you gained or gave, you feel a sense of completion because it seems to be a rush of confirmation that goes through you.

On a previous post, I have a quote that discusses how our children are mimicking adult lives in grown bodies, but we know more than often, their impersonation falls short. Life is real and “it comes at you fast” and our children (emphasis on our because although I do not have any children yet, I do feel a sense of responsibility) are straying away and to be honest, some of us adults are to. If you asked where are they straying away to, turn on your tv or scroll through any social media site and you will find your answer.

I suggest that you think about your experiences and what you learned from them or what you wished you had known during that time. Just imagine how helpful that would be to someone else, but only if it is warranted of course. I know you are probably asking, but who is going to want to listen to me? I think you may be surprised because if they are interested in what they see in you, they are definitely going to listen to what you have to say. So congratulations, you at least look like you have something meaningful to say, even when you do not think you do. In the end, you should never stop working on yourself, but when those opportunities arise for you to pour into someone else, do so. After all, your work may not only benefit you.