An honest enemy is better than a friend who lies.” ~ Unknown
I am almost certain that at some point in our lives, we have all been deceived, fooled for thinking that a situation is one way, when most of the time it is completely the opposite. People have a creative way of thinking when they decide to construct a lie, scenario, or lifestyle that is far from the truth just to get whatever they desire, which can range anywhere from fabricating a story in order to protect someone’s feelings to living a double life. As you can imagine, any form of deception can harm anyone, regardless of where it falls on the spectrum of lies. Although the impact of the lies are painful, I believe it is the act that is far worse.
Naive is something I must admit to being. I always want to give people the benefit of the doubt and I never thought that people would lie, especially in situations they did not have to, however, I have to realize that I am totally wrong. I have witnessed so called friends and sisters talk about one another behind their backs, but be the best of friends when in the same room. Also, there are the situations of that one person in a relationship who lies about any and everything, who has a hidden agenda, or who is out for their personal gain. Whether you are the person who played the villain or the victim, you have to know when enough is enough.
From my personal experience, intuition is real. Nevertheless, you must be conscious when it is actually your gut feeling, or to take it further, your spirit that is trying to communicate with you or if it is just a ball of emotions. At times, it can be confusing, but I believe you have to look for a pattern. I slowly realized that my gut feeling comes in the middle of the night, which causes me to get little rest or in the moment, I feel hot and as if I am being pressured to do or say something and I actually feel obligated! Unfortunately, I did not always know my pattern and I had the role of playing victim in a few situations, but hey…they were all learning experiences and I am learning how to trust my own instinct and know when to leave or avoid those situations altogether.
But let’s face it, we all have dealt with being mislead by others and especially ones that we love and once the truth comes out, because it will, then what next? Do you replay every lie that was said, every story that was told, even those moments you thought you would be able to cherish for a lifetime because after all, they were with people you loved and cared about and you thought they felt the very same way about you? Even if you try to erase those past times, it is quite difficult to continue to move forward because you have to face the next step, which is forgiveness. One word that no one can ever escape. If you are reading this and can think of a time when someone took advantage of you and caused you to believe everything they had to offer, know that regardless of what they did, you have to forgive them. Trust me, I have not mastered putting this in practice in all facets of my life’s trials involving people’s dishonesty, but I can admit I know that is what I need to do. If I remain bitter, evil, or believing that I cannot trust anyone, then how can I accept the person who I can actually trust in my life?
Now I must admit, the ability to forgive and trust is a process that is ongoing, at least for me it is, but that is okay. As long as you are able to learn from those past situations and begin to listen to your intuition, the possibility of being affected by one’s lies is something that you are practicing to avoid all together.