Giving Thanks

Now that you are finally seeing the end of the Thanksgiving leftovers and the out of town family has officially left the state, did you ever reflect on the things that you are truly thankful for and give thanks?  After all, it is quite easy to become more concerned with who is bringing what dish and where they will be staying versus reflecting on all that you have defeated and what you currently have.

After the holiday wore off, I immediately began to do some reflecting.  Besides, it is getting close to the end of the year and this is the time people begin to make their New Year’s Resolution, To Do List, and this is also a time when people start to say things like, “Next year will be a better year for me.” or “Beginning January 1st, I will start doing (insert some common New Year’s goal here).”  However, I do not believe it is good practice to somewhat erase your past year’s events because, good or bad, they all had an affect on you.  If that is hard to comprehend and all you can think about is the negative, think about who you have become since that incident or those incidents occurred.  In my opinion, you are either stagnant (in the same place you were before), worse off, or better off.  Hopefully it is the latter.

Unfortunately, being better off is not always the case for all of us all the time, but that is perfectly okay, because you still have the option of looking at the glass as half full versus half empty.  Don’t believe me?  Well, you have breath in your body, so it is safe to say you are still living.  You are able to make some decisions for yourself and if you think your life is just terrible, at least you have access to the internet.  Everything is on the internet, plus you have the ability to read this and I am truly thankful!  In all seriousness, regardless of how bleak things may look currently, be thankful you made it this far!  That is truly a blessing and no one or any circumstance can take that away from you, so own it.

While you reflect on your year’s roadblocks, pitfalls, highs, and lows, think about all that you have gained.  I am sure there are many losses, but what you gained outweighs the losses every time.  You may have gained a friend, discovered your niche, tried something new, been pushed into a situation that was uncomfortable, but somehow got through it…the list is endless.  The bottom line is, you made it!  In conclusion, giving thanks goes beyond the roof over our heads, cars to drive, and food on our table.  Although they are not to be taken for granted, your life and your experiences should not be taken for granted as well.  After all, giving thanks for everything reveals paths to new and unexpected blessings.

Peace

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Perfect Timing

Have you ever felt like time is your worst enemy?  Does it seem as if you never have enough time in the day to get your goals accomplished?  Do you plan for items on your checklist to be done sooner than later, but before you know it, it is later and they are now just a thought because when you look up, it is the next week, the next month, or maybe even the next year?  Now, you are left wondering where did the time go and why you were unable to accomplish your goals.

In spite of that, did you ever think that maybe it just was not your time that mattered?

I know that may be hard to accept because you may be the type of person who has had their life planned out since their teenage years.  I know I did.  Yet, life is full of unexpected events and sometimes the very things you plan for never seem to happen when you want them to.  For instance, my plan was to complete college, be married, actually happily married, have two children, a two-story house with a fence and possibly a dog in my mid-twenties.  I know it may sound a little cliché, but that was my plan.  However, the only thing I managed to accomplish was finishing college with two degrees and student loans that I dread paying each month, which I did not successfully plan for.  Now, I am left thinking about everything else, especially since I am embarking on a new decade in a couple of months.

If you can relate, I hope you are not thinking it is somehow your fault that your dreams and goals have not come into existence as of yet.  I believe that there is a reason why things come to life and do not come to life and there is a season for them to come true.  In all, this is something that you cannot plan, regardless of how much you strategize, how hard you work, or how many good deeds you do.  Some things are just not up to you.  In my opinion, this is what makes life the rollercoaster and unexpected journey that it often is.  This is what also makes life seem a little unfair.

I am sure you ask yourself, why is this happening to me or why is that not happening for me?  No?  Perhaps, why are they married and not me?  Or maybe, how did they get a job promotion and I did not?  Of course there is the question, I am a good person, so when am I going to get what I deserve?  In my opinion, these are questions that we often have at one point in our lives and that we often feel entitled to certain things because of who we are, what we have done, and what we have not done.  This is definitely the wrong way to think about your life.  In my opinion, the feeling of entitlement is…honestly, false.  As a person, you are naturally born flawed and that is perfectly okay.  Oxymoron isn’t it?  Events will take place in their own time and it is up to you to determine how you will respond.  Sometimes you will make the right decision and sometimes, you may miss the mark.

Nevertheless, that proves how life is full of unexpected twist and turns, but things will happen for you when it is the right time.  I do not believe that there is no real explanation as to why and when they happen, so I think it would be helpful to stop asking those when, why, and how questions because if you notice, you never seem to receive a straight answer.  Ultimately, you should believe that your season will come and when it does, it will be all in its own perfect time.

Believe

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Creating my blog has pushed me to make choices l never considered before. This is such an exciting time for me and I just want to thank you for your support!  Your views, likes, and comments have not only made me think of just being a blogger, but has inspired me to turn The Ways of My Heart into a brand.  I pray for your continued support and as always read, share, and enjoy!

Peace

~Keisha