Accepting Your Truth

Have you ever thought about your life and wanted to change some of your decisions, take back some things you may have said to someone, perhaps change your appearance, or maybe thought of the extreme, starting all over again?  Well, we all know there is no way to go back into the past to “fix”  mistakes and situations in our lives.  Instead, we have to accept them and move on with our reality.  Although it can be a little difficult at times, accepting your truth is the only way you will be comfortable with who you really are.

It is very rare that I discuss social media in my posts, but for this topic in particular, I am going to use it as examples because I believe it will be easy to relate to and visualize.  Majority of us are on some form of social media where we can share videos, pictures, or minute by minute updates about our thoughts and what we are doing…which may be nothing of any importance.  I believe social media serves as a means for us to connect and stay connected with people we know and do not know, while having control over how people perceive us without talking to or seeing us face to face.  Due to this type of interaction, we are able to manipulate, disguise, and even create our lives and present them to the world or our timeline, even when it is a lie.  Why would someone want to create something that is not really them or leave out the parts about themselves that they believe are not as appealing?  Well, it may be because they are not comfortable with their true selves.  It can be difficult to be comfortable with your reality when you have gone through so much that you feel as if your situation(s) are so unique that no one will understand.  Or perhaps, you believe that no one will accept you because you do not look like everyone else, so you manipulate, conceal and construct a new image of yourself.

Before I move on, it is not only on social media where you will find these versions of people, but they are on their job, in their community, and even in their place of worship.  However, this is not how you should perceive yourself to be.  In order to accept your truth, you must first let go of your past, which I discuss further in my post, Releasing Your Past.  Once you are able to leave those parts of you in the past, take responsibility and understand that they made you who you are today.  There should not be any reason for you to feel ashamed, believe you have to hide yourself behind a fabricated version of yourself, or only reveal what seems appealing.  Everyone’s life is not always captivating.  We all have our unique issues that make us just that…unique.

When you are able to accept that you are uniquely made, there may be little to no reason why you may feel you have to hide behind something you are not.  Will everyone understand and accept you for you?  Of course not, but that is okay.  I believe that everyone is not supposed to and once you reach that revelation, it becomes easier to be you.  All in all, accepting your truth is going beyond the surface and may take some serious effort, but after all, aren’t you worth it?

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Living Your New Normal

What is a “new normal” you ask?  Well, maybe you have experienced something that was extremely difficult and after making it through the traumatic experience, your life has never been quite the same.  For example, losing a mother or father, being involved in a life threatening experience, or a health scare are all situations that can definitely change the way you view and live your life.  However, it is up to you to determine how you will continue your life.

In my opinion, there are two ways you can live your life after a traumatic experience.  The first one is to not continue to live and by that, I do not mean ending your life, although you may feel that way and unfortunately, some choose that route.  However, I am specifically talking about living with no purpose.  You may wake up as if it is just another day and succumb to a mundane daily routine and eventually, miss out on all of the beautiful and exciting moments life has to offer.  Instead of looking forward to those moments, you often find yourself being held back from those traumatic experiences, regrettably, some of us have more than one, because you tend to relive it or often ask yourself, “Why did this happen to me?”.  I believe this is a question that cannot be answered because our experiences are written to exist long before we are born.  Ultimately, living in a lifeless state can be very dangerous and your mind can easily be attacked by negative thoughts, which may lead to negative people entering your life and/or a decrease in the physical and spiritual realms of your life.  Once you reach this point, it seems as if you are no longer in control of your life, but we should be thankful that is far from the truth.

On the other hand, if you choose not be held hostage by your traumatic experience(s), you have decided to embrace living your new normal or living your life post-trauma.  It is not simple, but if you accept that unexpected situations are destined to happen in your life, it is easier to learn how to adjust to your “new normal”.  Besides accepting the unforeseen in your life, in order to adjust to your new normal, you must be patient.  Patience can be such a difficult habit to form, but it is a reason why it is virtue.  You learn how to trust the process of your life and you learn to relax.  Not only do you learn to trust the process of your life, you begin to trust the decisions you make for yourself because you realize you may not be able to live the life you had before your life changing experience, which is okay.  Living in your new normal is challenging, but challenges and overcoming those challenges build character.  Eventually, you may become more confident, less afraid, and knowledgable about what you can handle, which may come as a surprise!

Living your new normal is a decision that you must make for yourself and for some, it may be one of the hardest decisions that will have to me made in life.  However, I believe it is worth taking a chance by moving forward to experience life because that is exactly what life consists of.  Experiences that you may get yourself involved in, while other times they blindside you, but it is your choice to either let your experience(s) control your life or rise above them and continue living.

**You can read more about patience in my post Patience.

Living a Life of Gratitude

Gratitude is defined as being thankful or showing appreciation and the willingness to return acts of kindness.  In my opinion, gratitude is an act that is rarely portrayed because everyone often expects something at the click of a button or believes that they deserve much more than they actually do.  I believe that in order to live a life of gratitude, you have to get out of your own way and practice humility.  Once you are able to adopt the characteristic of being humble on a daily basis, you will realize that there are countless things to be thankful for and you will want others to experience the same positive feeling you receive as well.  After all, who does not want to feel appreciated!

Now let’s face it.  It is very difficult to experience gratitude when you are constantly worrying, in a state of fear, or in an angry space.  If you are expecting an apology that you have not received, the promotion you eagerly want, or even chasing an appearance that is deemed acceptable by society’s standards due to your personal fear of not being accepted, it is quite natural that you may forget to stop and show appreciation for everything that you currently have.  Eventually, you end up forgetting about all of the positive things that you should be grateful for.  You may think they are small and they are not worth the time acknowledging, but all of those little things amount to big things that directly affect you and make you…you.  So be thankful!

Take some time out from your busy schedule and life on social media and really reflect on everything that has occurred in your life.  Yes, I am sure there will be bad situations, but believe it or not there are plenty of good ones too.  Make a list of all of the things you are thankful for…I mean everything.  For example, I am thankful for friends, family, the ability to make my own decisions, even the fact that I have food in my refrigerator makes me happy.  Just think…there is someone in the world, maybe even in your neighborhood, who is not able to say those very same things and could only dream of possibly having half of what you have.  However, this will not stop you from making attainable goals for yourself, but it should make you feel proud of what you have already accomplished and thankful for those who have helped you along the way, because you did not do it alone.

Ultimately, living a life of gratitude is a learned lifestyle.  To some it is quite simple and to others it is rather difficult due to focusing on the materialistic, their status, or the feeling of entitlement.  However, you cannot forget to take the time out to reflect on your life and not on the things that you want to fix, regret, or want for yourself, but what you currently have, especially those things that no one can take away and that is what you should truly be thankful for :).

Peace