“Bitterness is a result of clinging to negative experiences. It serves you no good, and closes the door to your future.”- Leon Brown. Harboring bitterness or even “holding a grudge” is something we easily do and we are often unaware by how it can affect our attitudes, thoughts, and emotions.
Not until recently, I was able to acknowledge and accept that bitterness rested in my heart, which I found to be quite disturbing. For me, I unconsciously suppressed my feelings of bitterness towards people and situations, but once I was asked to think about bitterness and what has caused me anger and disappointment, all of those feelings flooded my memory and I immediately felt overwhelmed. At one point, I thought I got rid of all of those negative emotions, however, I was wrong. Have you ever thought if you were harboring bitterness in your heart? It could be about past experiences with family, friends, school, work, and of course, intimate relationships.
There will come a time where you will need to reflect on the outcomes of your bitterness. I found that bitterness hardened my heart, which led to my judgement being clouded, at times, about new people I met throughout my life. If your thoughts are on this very same path, this can be devastating because you may push away genuine people and miss the opportunity of forming new relationships or having the support you may need to get through the tough moments in your life. Your attitude may change without you even noticing and negative thoughts can begin to form because you continue to focus on your negative experiences. However, in order to be on the opposite end of bitterness you will have to decide if you are willing to let go of your bitterness and enter the process of freeing yourself of your anger and disappointment. From personal experiences, I can assure you that it will not be easy, but there will be times when you will learn more about yourself and good habits start to form, just remember that it is a process.
Once you decide that you are willing to begin the process, focus on the outcome! For example, imagine the growth you could possibly make within yourself and the chance to experience joy…I am certain that being in a state of joy is more difficult to experience when you have bitterness in your heart. Also, you may be able to better discern who is genuine and who is not. This is extremely important when new people enter your life. I know I often have to remind myself that people come and go like seasons with a specific reason in your life. It may be for you to learn a lesson or to be that someone that you need as a companion. Overall, you can never be too sure unless you give someone a chance, but while doing so, there is nothing wrong with being cautious and trusting your intuition.
In my opinion, Leon Brown captured the essence of bitterness by stating, “…it serves you no good, and closes the door to your future”. Bitterness alters who you are destined to become and causes you to close off the endless (positive) possibilities in your life. In the end, do not let bitterness be the reason why you are unable to open the door to your future.