Many people believe that fear is a mind killer. It is an emotion that comes and goes and you have the ability to control it. To know that you have the ability to control fear is extremely powerful and comforting, however, it seems like fear often gets the best of us. I know for me, fear is a thing that I struggle with.
In my last post, Be Passionate, I spoke about moments that concerned my health that made me and still make me fearful today. These fearful moments in my life can be hard to overcome, but I know I have to trust and believe that there is something greater than the fear that clouds my thoughts. As I sit and type this sentence, I am still battling with the idea of fear, but even though I am in this position, I can honestly say I have learned a lot about the imaginative concept of fear.
I never understood people who make comments such as, “Why worry”, “Fear nothing”, and “Live in the moment”. For those of us who are always thinking about the “what ifs”, these comments sound a bit absurd. How can I live in the moment when I need to figure out what to do if something were to happen, to which I have no clue if it is really going to happen, which further freaks me out! Stop and take a deep breath. Take another. And another. Regardless if you are frightened if something terrible is going to happen to you or happen again, it makes no sense to devote all of your energy, time, and thoughts on something that has not happened. It sounds easy enough I’m sure, but I do know how difficult it is.
For me, I am learning on how to focus on the now. It is not the same as living in the moment for me only because I feel as if I would be living carelessly. Even though I am trying to focus on the now, I believe I have every right to be cautious. While focusing on your right now, give thanks. Be thankful that you have breath in your body and you woke up to another beautiful day on this earth. If that is not enough to be thankful for, be thankful that you have the ability to make your own choices. You can do something today that will make you or someone else happy today. If you are reading this, you can be thankful for having access to the internet. You have a phone or some form of an electronic device that keeps us connected to any and everything that is going on in this world! Just think about the number of things you are thankful for or write a list, which was some great advice I received. I am sure you will be surprised to see what you will end up with. I know I was.
In my opinion, fear is something like an unhealthy relationship going through a bad break-up. You were devoted to the thought of it for so long, even when you knew it was not good for you. Things continued to happen to serve as clues, but you ignored them. Then that horrible thing happens and you cannot get over it. You constantly think about it, cry about it, or even confine yourself to your home because you are too afraid to face the world and continue with your life, but that is just the thing. Your life has to continue. You have to keep going and why not continue with a smile on your face? Is it hard to do? Yes, but it is worth the struggle of getting over it, and it will be a struggle. However, the good thing is, there will be a day you will be able to look back on all of those “what ifs” and wonder to yourself why did you allow yourself to go through all of the torment because of fear. If anything, I think about that day the most because that will be the day I will be free from fear and so will you.